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claire

Mais opções 2 jul, 06:23

De: claire <claireletour...@gmail.com>

Data: Thu, 2 Jul 2009 02:23:01 -0700 (PDT)

Local: Qui 2 jul 2009 06:23

Assunto: Re: Raise children with strict discipline or leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own?

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Hi NgoNam Oshiro and all,

My parents gave me total freedom to do whatever I wanted since I was a
teenager,and before those years,I was kind of brought up by my elder
siblings.
They only intervened once(OK more than once;)) because I wanted to
drop out from high school...

After being a mother myself,I realized what kind of ordeal I had put
them through being a troublesome daughter.:(

I have 2 small boys with quite different temperaments who constantly
remind me not to apply the same rules to them.
For the one who's always cautious,thoughtful and proactive,there's no
need for more discipline whereas another who's always fearless and
reckless,we often have to be stricter to oversee what he is up to,then
guide him out of danger or trouble.

Sometimes,if it's not harmful to him or others,I encourage my husband
to allow him to learn the lessons for himself.
I think It works better than intervention or prevention.

It's an important question that NgoNam posed:
What can parents teach their children?

For me,it's the self-respect and the respect for others and all living
creatures.
Besides that,it has to be being responsible for what you do and say
which means being mentally and physically independent.

Thank you for the question and good day to you two and all,
Claire

On Jul 1, 7:03 pm, Rafael Oshiro <rafael.osh...@gmail.com> wrote:

> Hi NgoNam and all!!

> I like to think that when I have a child, I'll bring him/her up kind of
> strict, not strict at all. I mean, attempting to raise my child with values
> and respect with other. Let the children learn by themselves doesn't sound a
> good way to educate them for me.
> Maybe the law of the streets can disrupt them and when we notice, it's late
> to take an action to revert the situation.
> That's the way I was brought up my parents and this is my point of view
> about that.

> Oshiro

> On Mon, Jun 29, 2009 at 11:33 PM, NgoNam <ngotri...@gmail.com> wrote:
> > Hi all,

> > Would you like to discuss about a quite hard and practical issue:
> > "Some parents raise their children with strict discipline while others
> > leave them free to learn life's lessons on their own. Whichone of these
> > approaches is better and why?".

> > Give your opinion please,
> > Thanks- Hide quoted text -

> - Show quoted text -

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